Puzzle Pieces

At the end of the day, what is something we all want to have?

The answer is simple: Companionship. Someone to care about us. Someone to just love us regardless of our flaws and faults. I mean you could be in the category of people that just boycotts relationships and if that's you, then by all means keep doing you. But the majority of people want to find someone. I know this because I was once one of those people. Searching for companionship and desperate for someone to just walk into my life and love me.

So what do we do? Well in today's society we search for that companionship in literally anyone. We actually walk into these relationships KNOWING this may not be the right person, but we do it anyway. We convince ourselves otherwise. We make excuses for our doubts and talk ourselves out of thinking anything is wrong. I know this because I personally did it. I was in a relationship where I was lied to, disrespected, and the list goes on and on. Aside from all of that I still tried to make it work, even though deep down I knew they were not good for me and I deserved so much better.

It's like we are toddlers trying to put together this puzzle. You know how they just try to put the pieces together even when they don't fit? Well that's us. We are just out here jamming puzzle pieces together, trying to make them fit when they obviously don't.

So how do we fix this? Let me tell you.

We set standards for ourselves. We make promises to our self that we will not settle for anything less than what we deserve. And lastly, we WILL NOT force anything. For over a year my gut told me to run the opposite direction, but I ignored it. I am beyond thankful that eventually I found myself single again and this is when I made that promise I was talking about. I promised myself that I would not let another guy in my life that didn't treat me with respect, honesty, and the love I deserved. I'll be honest, I wasn't very good with my judgment at first, but I learned quickly and I found someone. I found someone that makes me excited to wake up every day. Someone that makes me feel so loved and cared for. Someone that accepts me for my flaws instead of using them against me. I used to spend so many nights crying myself to sleep. Now I spend my nights laughing and having fun with a guy that is crazy about me. Let me tell you, it feels amazing.

So to sum up my thoughts; Stop forcing the puzzle pieces. I promise your perfect piece is out there. Don't give up and DO NOT settle for less than you deserve.